A reader writes… Q: I’m in a situation where my heart refuses to obey my mind. Nine years ago, I met this girl, let’s call her “Stacey,” at a convention. In the emails that followed, I was shocked at how much the two of us had in common. Our tastes on everything were both so eccentric yet so similar, it was like we could read each others minds! We quickly became friends… but I fell completely in love.

She’s a sharp girl; she obviously knows I have some amorous feelings (though probably not to what extent), but I’m also certain that she doesn’t see me in that light at all.

Nine years later, we’re still just friends, and I’m still in love. We’ve never been on a date. I have dated plenty of other girls in that time, but Stacey is always in the back of my mind. Try as a might, I don’t think I’ve ever gone a day without thinking about her at least once, and its killing me! I feel ashamed and angry at myself that I can’t just get over this girl. This isn’t normal!

I’ve tried to “fade out,” but eventually she always attempts to re-affirm our friendship and keep me within her reach.

There must be a way for me to cure this obsession. I know it sounds cheesy, but is there a cure for love?

Go over and help this reader out!