A bonus Courting Disaster question this week…

A reader writes…Q: I’m seventeen, male, Australian, nerdy and somewhat shy around girls. As you may have guessed, I have never had a girlfriend.

I sing in a choir. I started developing some serious feelings for one of the girls in the choir. I started hanging around with her in the hope of getting up my courage and asking her out. She didn’t really seem to notice me.

A few days into the tour, the gossips in the choir said to me “We think that you two should go out. That’d be so cute!”

This affirmation removed all my fears on the matter. I made several flambouyant romantic gestures, more often than not in view of half the choir. However, she is quite shy and did not appreciate my advances; she was unsure whether I really felt for her or whether I was just playing a game. Because of this, gestures that would have been romantic in any other situation were rendered cruel.

When I eventually asked her out, she sprung the following piece of girl-code on me; “I’m sorry, but I can’t see you as anything more than a friend.”

Unfortunately, we haven’t even been that; most of the choir has turned against me and she’s been avoiding me as much as possible. Apart from my heartfelt apology when I worked out that she hadn’t appreciated my advances, we haven’t spoken since.

So, my question is; do I have any sort of chance with this girl, or should I just rely on the other fish in the sea?

Don’t answer here… go on over to the CD site and offer some advice.